在人的世界裡, 有一個沒有辦法改變的事實就是, 任何真實陳述事實的言語所能得到的結果就是得罪人. 人性受到罪的扭曲結果竟然是連號稱應該會知罪認罪的基督徒都不能看清自己的過錯, 轉而用自己都不能自圓其說的惡毒言語攻擊出面指正的人. 這真是人的悲哀啊!
這樣層出不窮的例子, 在在地證明基督教世界裡所充斥的偽君子文化, 教人如何去傳福音? 耶穌啊, 您真是受苦了, 畢竟, 出賣祢的不是別人, 反倒是祢的門徒!
Thursday, August 23, 2007
Monday, August 20, 2007
The Heart Of A Father - 為父之心
NARRATOR: It's been said that experience is the best teacher… I find myself asking, "Isn't there an easier way?” Wouldn't it be great if we would just listen to all the advice and instruction we've been given through the years? If we could just absorb and remember all the lessons history has to teach us? Oh sure, I understand that there are just too many unknowns - too many of our experiences that, just don't fit the mold… Too many variables when it comes to people and their actions…or reactions. It's true; sometimes I can't even predict my own feelings or behavior. And what about all the lessons that the classroom failed to mention. For instance, have you ever known a guy who took a class on what to do or what not to do in the presence of a crying woman? Me either! …But, just think of it, if we could learn and know all we needed to know in some other way - rather than experience, imagine how many mistakes that would prevent. We wouldn’t have to say, "If only I could go back and do it all over again" or the words “I’m Sorry” as often as we do! We probably wouldn’t have to take the risk of depending on others for help. We might not even have to resort to… prayer…Humph.
旁白:有人說經驗是最好的老師…我卻問我自己說, “難道沒有更容易的方式嗎?” 如果我們都能聽從多年來人家給我們的勸告和教導, 那不是更好嗎? 如果我們都能吸收和記取歷史所給我們的教訓, 那不是很好嗎?
當然, 我了解有太多的未知數-太多我們親身的經驗, 並不一定適合同一個模子. 當遇到人和人之間的互動, 或是反應時, 總是有太多的變數. 這當然是真的, 有時候, 我甚至不能預測我自己的感覺或是行為. 還有, 很多課堂上沒有學到的那些功課, 那又該怎麼辦呢?
舉個例子來說, 你有看過有人去上課, 想要學習在看到女人哭泣時, 應該怎麼反應嗎? 我是從來沒看過! 不過, 請你想一下, 如果我們都能夠用其他的方式, 而不是透過親身的體驗, 來學習和認識我們需要知道的一切, 那我們可以省掉多少錯誤啊! 我們就不用常常重複去說, “我真希望回過頭, 重新來過一次”, 或是”我很抱歉”, 諸如此類的話! 我們大概也可以不用頂著風險, 去依靠別人的幫助. 甚至, 我們也許都不需要禱告呢…哈
FATHER: Hi…My wife is in there…She's going to have a baby… I'm very concerned! Oh NO! No!…She's fine…no, no, the doctor expects the baby to be fine too! … It's ME I'm worried about! When our first child was born, I was a mess! They almost had to hospitalize ME! It was awful; I passed out right as the baby was being born! The doctor announced “It’s a boy”, and I hit the floor. What a sight, both my wife and me being wheeled out of delivery in separate beds.
…It's the pain, the screaming…the blood…I CAN'T HANDLE IT! Please don't make me go in there!
…OH I feel faint!
…Quick, somebody get the doctor! I think it's time!
父親: Hi, 我的太太在那裡…她快要生小孩了…我非常的擔心! Oh NO! No!...她很好…no, no, 醫生也認為小孩會很好!...我擔心的是, 我自己!
當我們第一個小孩出生時, 我簡直糟透了! 我還差點被要求強制住院! 這真是可怕的經驗; 當小孩正在出生時, 我竟然昏過去了. 醫生喊說”是個男孩”時, 我竟然栽到地板上去. 那真是一個奇觀, 我和我太太都躺在病床上, 分別的被推出產房. 那真是痛苦, 那樣的叫喊, 還有血跡, 我真的受不了! 請你不要再叫我到那裡去! …OH, 我快要昏倒了! …快點, 叫醫生來! 我想, 是該我昏倒的時候了!
NARRATOR: There is nothing that gives you hope for the future like a child. You look into those big, bright, beautiful eyes and see incredible potential! An innocence that hasn't been tainted by evil influences! A faith that hasn't yet been discouraged or told that "it can't be done"! …You also see the talent and the time to do and be - far beyond what we ever could.
…So, we invest in our children - the hopes and dreams who will outlive us and be the greatest potential for good and change in our crazy, sinful, mixed up world.
旁白:世上沒有一樣東西像小孩一樣, 會讓你對未來感到希望. 當你注視他們又大,又亮,又美麗的眼睛時, 你就會看到無窮的潛力!
你看到的是那尚未被邪惡勢力污染的純真! 看到的是那尚未膽怯或失志的信心! 你還可以看到那尚待成就的才華與光陰, 遠遠超過我們現在可能有的. … 因此, 我們投資在我們的小孩身上 - 把它當作是我們歸天後的夢想和希望, 當作是改造這個瘋狂, 罪惡, 是非交錯的世界的最大希望.
FATHER: Hey, hey, what's going on in here? You want to wake the whole neighborhood up? Shhh, Come on now, we need to let your mother sleep. She has been through a lot in order to bring you into the world…I guess you and me already have a lot in common…we can both be a real pain to your mom. Shhh… Come on there's no need to cry, that's just the way it is with us guys…Guess what? I was at the sports shop today and I bought the perfect rod and reel for you! Don’t tell your mom, she’ll kill me if she knows I got it. I know you'll love it! The reel is a Berkley Dual Cam and is it ever smooth and easy to cast. The rod is an ultra light, so you won't have any trouble handling it. I can hardly wait until your mom will let me take you and your brother out on the lake…the three of us, hauling in those Walleye and Northern…What we'll do is take the boat out on Millacs to this little spot I know about.It's kind of tucked back in on this southern little cove. That's one place I never get skunked, I always come away with something! Don't worry, if you tie into a big one, I'll help you pull it in! I remember my first big catch, I thought I was pulling up bottom… I was sure that either me or the pole or both were going to end up in the lake. But I didn’t dare let go, I just held on for dear life and screamed my head off until your grandpa came over and helped me pull him in…
Hey, hey, 到底發生了什麼事? 你要把所有的鄰居都吵醒嗎? 噓! 快一點, 我們需要讓你的媽媽趕快安睡. 她為了你的來到世間已經受了很多苦…我想, 你和我已經有很多共同的地方…我們都可能是你媽媽真正的麻煩.
噓!不需要哭, 我們男人就是要這樣子…你知道嗎?我今天在運動專賣店買了一套上好的釣竿和捲軸給你. 你可不能告訴你媽喔, 如果她知道的話, 一定會把我給宰了. 你將來一定會很喜歡的. 那捲軸是Berkley Dual Cam的, 非常的平順, 也很容易甩竿. 釣竿本身也特別的輕, 這樣你就不會有任何操作上的問題了.
我真的迫不及待地想要在你媽的恩准後, 帶你們兄弟倆到湖中…只有我們三個人, 大釣Walleye和Northern…我的計畫是把船從Millacs出發, 開到一個我所知道的地點, 一個夾藏在南邊的小灣後頭的地方. 我從來沒有在那裡槓過龜, 總是會釣到一點東西!
不要擔心, 如果你釣到大尾的, 我會幫你把它拖上來. 我記得當我第一次釣到大魚時, 我還以為我是勾到湖底呢…當時我萬分地相信, 不是我, 就是那根釣竿, 或者是兩者, 都會被拖進湖裡. 但是, 我不敢放手, 我就是死命地握緊, 大聲地叫到頭都快破掉, 你的爺爺才趕過來, 幫我把它拖上來…
FATHER: One of these days son, one of these days, you and me…it's gunna be great! That's it, back to sleep, rest those little eyes…(hum)
兒子, 就在未來當中的這些天, 就在未來當中的這些天, 你和我…那將是其樂無比! 就這樣了, 快回到夢鄉, 閉上你小小的眼睛吧…(呼聲)
NARRATOR: Men are unique and interesting creatures, and, I might add, they are not always understood or appreciated by the opposite sex. When women bond with other women, they do it while having a warm conversation over a hot cup of tea. Men on the other hand, bond with other guys while involved in something…like a sporting activity…like football, fishing. For women the activity would be distracting and detrimental to the idea of relationship building. But for guys, the sport IS the relationship! And as far as affection and caring goes, guys do that too! Like out on the football field, I mean, when a guy makes a good play on you and nearly knocks your lights out, you get up and let him know with a pat on the posterior. When a player is down, even if he's on the other team, you help him up. And when someone on your team scores or makes an incredible tackle…you show appreciation by either tackling him or butting helmets. Tell me, what could be warmer than that?
男人是一種獨特和有趣的動物, 而且, 我要說, 他們並不常常為異性所了解或欣賞.
當女人和女人聚在一起時, 她們可能一邊喝茶一邊聊天來進行彼此之間的交誼. 但另一方面, 男人和男人在一起的時候, 總是在從事一些活動, 如運動, 足球, 釣魚之類的東西.
對女人來說, 這些活動對於建立友誼是會帶來分散作用, 甚至是有害的. 但對於男人來說, 運動就是友誼! 以熱情和關心程度而言, 男人也不遑稱後. 我以足球場為例, 當一個傢伙攔截到你, 幾乎要讓你倒地不起時, 你會站起來, 在他後面輕拍, 表示不要緊. 當一個球員倒地時, 即使不是己方的球員, 你總是會幫忙把他扶起來. 當你的隊友得分或是做出不可置信的攔截動作時, 你會抱住他或是敲他的頭盔來表示你的讚賞. 天下還有什麼比這個更有人情味的東西呢?
FATHER: Do you have a boy on the team? Yeah? Which one? Number 72? Oh Ryan, he's a big kid! Come on Blue, Let’s Go! Alright, here we go. Yes! Way to Go!! WHAT!!? Holding? Oh come on ref! AHHHH!.. Oh…sorry about your popcorn ma'am. I'll go to the concession stand and get you another bag… right after this next play! …Oh look they're giving the ball to Billy…That's it…Take it to the outside…Run it by him… Oh great move Billy…YES GO, GO, GO SCORE!! YES…YES…YES!! Yes Joey…I realize I'm an embarrassment to be with. Did you see that…did you see that? That's my kid!! What a natural! Only been playing a year and is running and scoring like he's been playing for five! I think that he's got great potential! If he keeps it up, he could go far! …Maybe even play professionally someday! That a boy Billy! Great run Billy!!
父親: 你有孩子在隊上嗎? 是嗎? 是哪一個? 72號? 喔, 原來是Ryan, 他是個大孩子!
藍隊, 上場了! 好, 開始了. 對! 繼續跑! 什麼!!? 阻擋犯規? 加油啊, 裁判!
啊啊啊! 哇, 這位女士, 對不起, 把你的爆米花弄翻了, 這次進攻完之後, 我馬上去販賣攤給你買一包新的!
快看, 他們把球傳給Billy…這就對了…把球弄出去…穿過那個人…喔, Billy跑的真是太好了…對, 加油, 加油, 得分! 對…對…對!!
是的Joey…我知道我是一個會讓人感到難堪的人. 你看到哪沒有…看到沒有? 那就是我兒子!! 他真是個天生的球員! 才打了一年, 就像是那擁有五年球齡的一樣, 不停的跑, 不停的得分! 我認為, 他真的很有潛力! 如果他這樣繼續下去, 他有可能會闖出名號來! … 也許有一天, 他會參加職業隊呢!
Billy, 我的好孩子! Billy, 跑的好!!
NARRATOR: Family… family is a thing, especially in our day, that has a wide variety of meaning for people. But, no matter who we are, for most of us, the word ‘family’ still conjures up images and memories that are filled with experiences and emotions of care free happy days, of an environment of love and security, and of times of growing and learning. Probably nothing has a more profound effect on us than our family memories. For this reason I guess it behooves us to make the best ones we can. …Even doing our best though, family life can sometimes be hard and disappointing. And when that happens…Somehow we don't see it coming - It catches us by surprise - unprepared - off-guard. I think the real challenge though, within the moments that life throws at us, is in not doing damage to or destroying the very things that are truly the most important. Like, what family is really all about - people… relationships… you know… family…
家庭…特別是在今天, 對很多人來說, 代表著各種不同的東西 . 但是, 不管我們是什麼樣的人, 家庭這個字, 仍然會勾起我們充滿各樣體驗和情感的印象和回憶.
當中包括著無憂無慮的快樂日子, 包括一個充滿愛和安全感的地方, 也包括成長與學習的時刻. 也許, 世界上再也沒有比家庭的記憶會帶給我們更深遠的影響. 也因為如此, 我想我們應該儘可能的讓它成為我們最好的經驗.
…但是, 即便我們已經做了最好的努力, 有時候家庭生活仍然會有它困難的時候和失望的地方. 而且, 當我們遇到時, 往往不是我們所能預知的. 它總是出奇不意, 在我們沒有預備, 沒有保護的時候出現. 我認為, 我們真正的挑戰是, 在遇到生命的挫折時, 能不能避免損壞或是摧毀那真正最重要的東西, 像是家庭真正的目的, 或是人…或是關係…你知道的…就是家庭本身…
FATHER:
NOTE: Hi Sweetheart, I took the boys to do a little Christmas shopping. There is a plate for you on the second shelf in the fridge. By the way, you might want to take a look at Billy's report card. It just came today - It doesn't look good and I'm concerned - I don't know what is going on with him. He's a smart kid - this just doesn't make sense. We'll talk when I get home.
Love Ya
What's going on here? Every grade has dropped again! Homework not turned in…What homework? I thought that he'd been doing all of his homework. Assignments missing… Lacks motivation…I thought we had this thing solved! I thought that we had an understanding. I don't get it! Billy is better than this! How can a kid with so much talent and so much going for him…just act…like…like…he doesn't want to do anything!!? He's not dumb… I will not just stand by and let him keep slipping. We’ve just got to find a way to motivate him…help him see how important his school work is to his future…and to playing ball. I don't want to be hard on him…I don't want to restrict him…What choice does he leave me? Billy is not focused…I'm concerned about the influence of Billy's new friends.
紙條: 親愛的, 我帶孩子們去買一點點聖誕節的東西. 冰箱的第二層有一盤給你的食物. 順便的話, 你可以看看Billy的成績單. 今天剛剛寄來-看起來不太好, 我有點擔心-我真不知道他是怎麼搞的. 他是一個很聰明的孩子-這簡直太不合理了. 等我回家時, 我再跟你談.
愛你的 留
這是怎麼一回事? 每一科的成績都往下掉! 功課沒交…什麼功課? 我以為他一直都有做他的功課. 指定作業沒做…缺乏學習意願…我還以為我們早就解決這個問題了! 我以為我們已達成共識. 我真是不懂!
Billy 應該表現的比這個還好! 為什麼這樣有才情, 這樣有志向的孩子…就這樣…像…像…像是不想要做任何事的樣子呢!!?他也不笨… 我不能袖手旁觀, 讓他這樣沉淪下去. 我們必須找到適當的方式, 讓他得到動力…幫助他看見他的學校功課對他的未來, 甚至對於踢足球, 是何等的重要.
我不想要對他太嚴厲…我不想要限制他…那我到底還有什麼選擇呢? Billy不太專心…我有點擔心, 是不是Billy的新朋友造成的影響呢?
NARRATOR: Being a parent is something that a person never fully understands until they become one themselves. Good parents really care about their children's welfare. They want them to grow up to be well-adjusted successful adults, prepared for life on their own. For this reason, most parents walk a tight rope between letting go and holding on…always weighing carefully the long term results. A parent's love for their child is what keeps them tethered to sanity while overlooking the cliff of insane circumstances - and that love is what prevents them from falling headlong into passionate mistakes.
一個人在還沒有為人父母之前, 一定沒辦法完全了解當父母是怎麼一回事. 好的父母會真正的關心他們孩子的福祉. 他們想要孩子長大, 成功地成為各方調適良好的大人, 為自己將來的生命而預備.
為了這個理由, 大多數的父母一直都在收與放之間走一條鋼索…總是小心地在衡量長遠的效果. 父母對於孩子的愛是孩子們能夠不致掉落週遭瘋狂的斷崖, 讓他們繼續保持清醒的原因 - 而且這樣的愛可以避免他們栽進一時衝動所造成的錯誤.
FATHER: How many times am I going to have to deal with this? This is unbelievable! I thought that we had an agreement – my mistake! Here we go again! Anymore it seems like the only things that Billy and I talk about are issues!! All our relationship consists of anymore is conflict! …What am I going to do? I've tried everything…being lenient and giving him space to being restrictive,…I've tried grounding and removing privileges, I've tried reward and compromise…I've run out of ideas! …He just gravitates toward people who… just aren't good for him. At the same time he keeps drifting further and further from his mother and …me. At times…It's like…It's like…I don't even know him. Billy, what's happening here? What's happening to you? Where in the world are you?
這樣的事我還要重複處理多少次? 這簡直是不可相信! 我以為我們已經有了共同的理解 - 那真是我的錯誤! 那我就再說一次! 再這樣下去, 我和Billy之間看起來唯一會談的就是問題而已!! 我們之間的關係再這樣下去, 會增加的只是衝突!
…我要怎麼做才好呢? 我試遍了各種方法…先是慈悲為懷, 放寬他受限制的空間, 也試過禁足和取消特別待遇, 更試過給予獎賞或是妥協…我已經沒有別的法子了!
…他就是會受其他人的吸引…這對他一點都不好. 在這個同時, 他和他媽媽, 以及和我之間的關係只是越走越遠. 有些時候…就像是…就像是…我根本不認識他一樣.
Billy, 到底是發生了什麼事? 你到底是怎麼了? 你的心到底逛到哪裡去了?
FATHER: Wow!…I knew things weren’t good…but I never expected this! I’m shocked…that you would just come in here and demand your share of the family business…and what, you’re just going to leave? Everything…the company…the community…what about your friends…your family?!
嗚!...我就知道事情看起來不對勁…但是我從來沒有料到是這樣! 我真的很震驚…沒想到你進來這裡, 只是要求你在家庭企業中的股份…什麼, 你要走了? 那其他的事情呢…公司…社區…或是你的朋友…你的家庭呢?!
Are things really that bad around here? What have any of us done that you would put our family through something like this? You’ve pushed this too far!! You can’t just walk in here and throw your little attitude around and…Come back here when I’m talking to you…Billy…BILLY!!
這裡真的有這麼糟嗎? 我們當中到底有什麼人, 作了什麼事, 會讓你對你的家庭做出這麼讓人難過的事? 你的要求太過分了!! 你不能一下子就走進來, 表現出你不削的態度, 而且…回來, 我跟你講話的時候要… Billy…BILLY!!
What are we going to do? I suppose we can’t stop him from leaving…and what if we did…what good would that do? Yeah, that’s it, That’s what I could do…I’m going to withhold his portion of the family business…Yeah that’ll teach him… Go ahead and try to make it out there on your own…You think that You know so much!!
我們要怎麼做呢? 我想我們沒辦法阻止他離開…不過, 如果我們做了…那又會有什麼好處呢?
對, 這就對了, 這就是我所能做的…我要把他在家庭企業中的股份封存起來…就這樣, 要讓他學習到…走就走, 靠你的能力闖出你的道路來…你真的以為你懂的那麼多!!
Your right, we can’t do that, he already blames every problem he has on you and me. He’d just use that as another excuse for any future failure he might have…and to distance himself from us even further. I just can’t do that…I don’t know what to do…I just know that I don’t want to completely close the door between the two of us.
妳講的也沒錯, 我們不能那樣做, 他已經把他所有的問題都歸咎在妳和我身上. 他可能用這件事作為另一個藉口, 來面對他將來可能遇到的失敗…並且把他和我們之間的關係拉的更遠.
我就是不能這樣做…我不知道怎麼做…我只知道我不能把我們之間的門全部關起來.
Dear God, please help us…we don’t know what to do…we need your wisdom…Help us to do the right thing…please help Billy to see the direction he’s heading and where it will lead…Dear God please…Help us!
親愛的父神, 請幫助我們…我們不知道怎樣做才好…我們需要祢的智慧…請幫助我們做正確的事…請幫助Billy看見他要走的方向和未來…親愛的父神…請祢幫助我們!
NARRATOR: Someone has said that people don’t usually change until the pain of remaining the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Although true, the inherent problem with this principal, is that it doesn’t take into account what to do with the pain felt by loved ones who watch, and in their heart, walk through the pain with their friend or family member. There is a terrible feeling of helplessness…and sometimes …even hopelessness. That’s when we must, like never before, pray and trust in something…no, in Someone greater than ourselves for help and for hope!
有人說, 站在兒女的立場, 人是除非不得已, 非等到沿襲舊習的痛苦比另起爐灶的痛苦還大時, 才會想到要改變. 這句話雖然是真的, 但是其中所潛在的問題是, 它並沒有告訴我們要如何面對愛我們的人所受的痛苦, 也就是他們在看到, 並在心裡頭一同經歷到朋友或是家人的痛苦時, 當中所受到的那種煎熬.
在這其間, 會有可怕的無助感, 有時候甚至是絕望. 這時候, 我們不能像從前一樣, 我們必須要禱告, 要信任一種東西…不對, 是一個人, 祂比我們更大, 我們要祈求祂的幫助和希望!
FATHER: Are you sure that you want to do this? Are you sure that this is the right thing? Ok, ok sure.…Please be careful son, the world can be a tough place…there are a lot of people out there who will try and take advantage of you…be sure to watch how you carry your cash and …Son, your mom and I …we care about you…yeah ok…goodbye Billy…I love
you…Please don’t go.
你確信你要這樣做嗎? 你確信你要做的是正確的事嗎? 好, 好, 當然…請你要小心, 兒子, 這世界可能充滿艱難…外面有很多人可能會試著佔你的便宜…要注意如何攜帶現金, 並且…兒子, 你媽和我…我們關心你…那好…再見了,
Billy…我愛你…請你不要走.
What did I do wrong? I thought that I had always tried to do the right things…to bring my children up in the right way. I tried to give them what they needed and some of what they wanted without spoiling them. I always tried to teach them what was right…Was I too strict? Should I have given him more freedom? Maybe I should have kept a closer eye on where he went and who he hung out with…Was I there when he needed me? Where did I go wrong? There must have been something I did or could have done…or this wouldn’t have happened…this just can’t happen…not to us…
我到底做錯了什麼事情? 我以為我一直在試著作對的事情…用對的方式把我的孩子養大. 我試著給他們一切必須要有的東西, 但只給他們某些想要的東西, 以免把他們慣壞了.
我總是試著教他們什麼是對的…難道我太嚴格了嗎? 難道我應該給他更多的自由嗎? 或許, 我應該更注意他去過哪裡, 或是跟誰在一起…當他需要我時, 我在場嗎? 我到底走錯了哪條路? 我一定做過, 或是沒做, 什麼事情, 事情才會變成這樣…不然, 這是不可能發生的…尤其是對我們而言…
NARRATOR:
When describing the qualities of love, the writer of
I Corinthians said that: “Love always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres and never fails.” In other words…love never gives up! What a wonderful thing that is! Have you ever stopped to think where you’d be if it wasn’t for those who wouldn’t give up on you? Love doesn’t throw in the towel when things get tough. Instead, it keeps on…knowing that, therein lies the real power to heal a heart, to change a life…to rescue a soul!
當描述愛的特質時, 哥林多前書的作者說:” 愛是凡事相信．凡事盼望．凡事忍耐, 愛永不止息.” 換句話說…愛是永不放棄! 這是何等美妙的事!
你有沒有停下來想過, 如果不是那些對你永不放棄的人, 你現在會是在什麼地方呢? 當事情變的艱難時, 愛永不失敗. 相反的, 它會持續下去…因為, 在愛的當中, 存在著醫治心靈, 改變生命…和拯救靈魂的真正力量.
FATHER:
Dear Billy, its three–o-clock in the morning…I couldn’t sleep. I think about you all the time. Your mom and I pray for you every day. You mom is worried that you’re not taking good care of yourself – getting enough to eat. We’ve been especially concerned about some news we’ve been hearing about you – that you are in some kind of trouble. Your mom and I pray that it’s just some rumor or a mistake. We pray that you are ok. Yesterday your mom was going through some things out in the garage…and she found that old ball you and I used to practice with. Do you remember that? I don’t know if it will even hold air any more. We sure used to have a great time together. Oh son, I really miss you…how I wish we could go out and throw the ball around like we used to…
親愛的Billy, 已經凌晨三點了…我睡不著. 我一直惦記著你. 你媽和我每天都為你禱告. 你媽擔心你不會好好照顧自己 - 吃的不夠. 我們特別擔心我們聽到有關於你的一些消息 - 也就是, 你好像惹了一些麻煩. 你媽和我祈盼這只是一個謠言, 或是錯誤的訊息. 我們祈求你萬事平安.
昨天, 你媽在車庫裡清理東西…她找到了你和我以前練習用的一顆舊球. 這, 你還記得嗎? 我不曉得它還能不能充氣, 但是我們鐵定是擁有過那段美好的時光. 喔, 我兒啊, 我真的好想你…我真希望我們能夠像以前一樣, 一起出去, 互相丟球.
Billy, I know that you can’t read these letters that I’ve been writing…I don’t even know where to send them.
But I’m going to save them in case you…no, for when you come back home again…because I’ve been trying to say in them all the things I hoped you already knew…but maybe I didn’t say enough. Like all the times I’ve been so proud of you…and that I believe in you…and that I love you. DAD
Billy, 我知道你沒辦法讀到我不停在寫的這些信…我甚至也不知道要把它們寄到哪裡去. 不過我還是要把它們存起來, 準備你萬一…不對, 等到你回家時給你看…因為, 我試著在信中說出所有我希望你已經知道…但或許我並沒有說夠的事情. 比如說, 我一直是以你為傲的…我也對你有信心…
還有, 我愛你.
父筆
NARRATOR: When your car breaks down you can take it to a
mechanic to have it diagnosed and repaired. When you break an arm you can go to the hospital to have it x-rayed set and cast. But where can you go with a broken heart to have it fixed? I only know of one place…as someone has said in a song…It’s a place called grace! God’s grace is what enables a person to face themselves, to face other people, to forgive…to start over and, to put the past where it belongs – behind you! And then, to move forward into the future with renewed hope and freedom!
當你的車子壞掉時, 你可以把它送到修車間, 讓人診斷, 並修復. 當你斷了一隻手時, 你可以去醫院照X光, 並上石膏. 但是, 當你心碎時, 你要去哪裡修復它呢? 我只知道一個地方…如同有人在一首歌上所說的…在一個叫恩典的地方!
神的恩典是讓人能夠面對自己, 面對其他人, 能夠饒恕..能夠重新出發, 並把”過去”放在它該屬的地方-也就是背後, 這些作為的原動力. 從那裡, 我們才可以帶著新的希望和自由, 向未來前進.
FATHER: Hi Harold! Oh, you found my slipper, it must have come off when I ran across the yard yesterday. Thanks! Yeah I’m kind of in a hurry here! We’re heading out with the family in a few minutes. We’ve got a really special evening planned. I know, can you believe it? Billy sure surprised us yesterday! We didn’t know if we would ever see him again. It’s a long story, but he’s doing Ok. He’s talking about making a new start, you know turning things around. I can tell that there has been a real change…sure…you’re right it’s going to take some time for healing too…but he’s home…thank God he’s home! What’s that? Forgive him? …Of course I forgive him…he’s my son! Billy? You ready? Listen I’ll have to talk to you later, we’ve got to get going. Sure Harold, see ya tomorrow.
Come on out when you’re ready, I’ll pull the car out of the garage.
Hi Harold! 喔, 你找到我的拖鞋了, 那一定是我昨天穿過庭院時掉的. 謝了! 呃, 我現在急著要走! 再過幾分鐘我們就要和家人一起出去. 今晚, 我們有一個很特別的計畫.
我知道, 但你能相信嗎? Billy昨天讓我們出奇的驚喜! 我們並不知道是否會再看到他. 這說來話長, 但重要的是, 他一切平安. 他告訴我們要重新出發, 也就是說把事情重新轉變. 我可以看出, 他真的是變了…當然…你也說對了, 這還要一段時間才能癒合…但是, 他回家了…感謝神, 他真的回家了!
你說什麼? 原諒他? … 當然, 我當然原諒他了…他是我的兒子啊! Billy? 你準備好了嗎?
聽著, 待會兒我再和你談一談, 但我們現在必須走了. 好, Harold, 明天見. 當你準備好就出來, 我會把車子開出停車間.
NARRATOR:
Home…What a word! It describes a place like no
other! Home is a refuge, a place of rest and safety. It’s a place where the important seeds of learning were first planted in our lives. Home should also be a place of unconditional love and acceptance…kind of like a cool drink – an oasis within the desert of life. When you’ve tried everything else and you can’t go anywhere else…you can always come home!
家…多美妙的一個字! 它是一個無處可比的地方! 家, 是一個避難所, 是一個休息和安全的地方. 它是我們生命第一次栽種那重要的學習種子的地方. 家, 也應該是一個無條件的愛和接納的地方…有點像冷飲 - 是人生沙漠中的綠洲. 當你試過每一樣事情, 找不到其他地方可去時…你總是可以回家!
FATHER: Would you look at that! This used to be your old bassinette! You fixed it up! It look s great! Right, right we don’t want to wake him. Oh son, he’s so beautiful! He looks just like you did when you were a baby. What do you mean what if he turns out like you? Why, that would be great! I think you’ve turned out pretty well! No, Billy, don’t say that. You must not live in the shadow of what might have been, but in the light of what is ahead. Look, you’ve got a lot of living…a lot of opportunities in front of you!
你可以看一下嗎? 這就是你以前的嬰兒床! 你把它修好了! 它看起來好極了!
對, 對, 我們不要把他吵醒. 喔兒子啊, 他好美麗! 他看起來就像是嬰兒時候的你. 你說他將來萬一像你要怎麼辦, 這是什麼意思? 喔原來是這樣, 不過那也很好! 我認為你最後還是變的很好!
不, Billy, 不要那樣說. 你不能活在過去可能錯失什麼的陰影下, 而是要活在未來在前的陽光下. 看著, 在你的未來, 有很多的生活…很多的機會, 正在等著你!
Here’s your opportunity, He is going to look to you for wisdom and instruction, for love and acceptance. He is going to look to you for his picture of what the Heavenly Father must be like. No, no none of us are perfect. Just let him see God in you. You’re going to do a great job! You’ll be a good father. Billy, the best thing you can do for your son is to be real, let him see your heart, let him get close to you. Don’t allow anything he does to drive a wedge in your heart. Just love him unconditionally and continually. And, above all, don’t ever give up on him! Remember, God never gave up on us!
Uh oh, looks like he’s starting to stir. Look, I’ll stay here with him, you go on ahead and take care of what you need to do. Sure, we’ll be alright. I’ll be out in a few minutes, you go ahead. Shhh, quiet now, that’s it back to sleep…(hum)
這就是你的機會, Billy: 他要看著你, 從你得到智慧和指示, 愛和包容. 他要看著你, 從你得到天父所應該有的模樣. 不, 我們沒有一個人是完美的. 只要讓他在你身上看到神就可以了.
你會把你的職分做好的! 你會是一個好父親. Billy, 你可以為你的兒子做的最好的事就是做個真誠的人, 讓他看到你的心, 讓他親近你. 不要讓他所做的任何事情在你的心中結下一個樑子. 只要無條件的愛他, 不停的愛他. 還有, 最重要的, 絕對不要放棄他! 記住, 神從未放棄我們!
喔喔, 看起來他要開始活動了. 看著, 我可以待在這裡陪他一下, 你盡管去作你該做的事情. 當然的, 我們都會很好. 我幾分鐘就會出去, 你先走.
噓, 你安靜點, 這就對了, 回到你的夢鄉吧…(呼呼)
– by Pastor Mathews
旁白:有人說經驗是最好的老師…我卻問我自己說, “難道沒有更容易的方式嗎?” 如果我們都能聽從多年來人家給我們的勸告和教導, 那不是更好嗎? 如果我們都能吸收和記取歷史所給我們的教訓, 那不是很好嗎?
當然, 我了解有太多的未知數-太多我們親身的經驗, 並不一定適合同一個模子. 當遇到人和人之間的互動, 或是反應時, 總是有太多的變數. 這當然是真的, 有時候, 我甚至不能預測我自己的感覺或是行為. 還有, 很多課堂上沒有學到的那些功課, 那又該怎麼辦呢?
舉個例子來說, 你有看過有人去上課, 想要學習在看到女人哭泣時, 應該怎麼反應嗎? 我是從來沒看過! 不過, 請你想一下, 如果我們都能夠用其他的方式, 而不是透過親身的體驗, 來學習和認識我們需要知道的一切, 那我們可以省掉多少錯誤啊! 我們就不用常常重複去說, “我真希望回過頭, 重新來過一次”, 或是”我很抱歉”, 諸如此類的話! 我們大概也可以不用頂著風險, 去依靠別人的幫助. 甚至, 我們也許都不需要禱告呢…哈
FATHER: Hi…My wife is in there…She's going to have a baby… I'm very concerned! Oh NO! No!…She's fine…no, no, the doctor expects the baby to be fine too! … It's ME I'm worried about! When our first child was born, I was a mess! They almost had to hospitalize ME! It was awful; I passed out right as the baby was being born! The doctor announced “It’s a boy”, and I hit the floor. What a sight, both my wife and me being wheeled out of delivery in separate beds.
…It's the pain, the screaming…the blood…I CAN'T HANDLE IT! Please don't make me go in there!
…OH I feel faint!
…Quick, somebody get the doctor! I think it's time!
父親: Hi, 我的太太在那裡…她快要生小孩了…我非常的擔心! Oh NO! No!...她很好…no, no, 醫生也認為小孩會很好!...我擔心的是, 我自己!
當我們第一個小孩出生時, 我簡直糟透了! 我還差點被要求強制住院! 這真是可怕的經驗; 當小孩正在出生時, 我竟然昏過去了. 醫生喊說”是個男孩”時, 我竟然栽到地板上去. 那真是一個奇觀, 我和我太太都躺在病床上, 分別的被推出產房. 那真是痛苦, 那樣的叫喊, 還有血跡, 我真的受不了! 請你不要再叫我到那裡去! …OH, 我快要昏倒了! …快點, 叫醫生來! 我想, 是該我昏倒的時候了!
NARRATOR: There is nothing that gives you hope for the future like a child. You look into those big, bright, beautiful eyes and see incredible potential! An innocence that hasn't been tainted by evil influences! A faith that hasn't yet been discouraged or told that "it can't be done"! …You also see the talent and the time to do and be - far beyond what we ever could.
…So, we invest in our children - the hopes and dreams who will outlive us and be the greatest potential for good and change in our crazy, sinful, mixed up world.
旁白:世上沒有一樣東西像小孩一樣, 會讓你對未來感到希望. 當你注視他們又大,又亮,又美麗的眼睛時, 你就會看到無窮的潛力!
你看到的是那尚未被邪惡勢力污染的純真! 看到的是那尚未膽怯或失志的信心! 你還可以看到那尚待成就的才華與光陰, 遠遠超過我們現在可能有的. … 因此, 我們投資在我們的小孩身上 - 把它當作是我們歸天後的夢想和希望, 當作是改造這個瘋狂, 罪惡, 是非交錯的世界的最大希望.
FATHER: Hey, hey, what's going on in here? You want to wake the whole neighborhood up? Shhh, Come on now, we need to let your mother sleep. She has been through a lot in order to bring you into the world…I guess you and me already have a lot in common…we can both be a real pain to your mom. Shhh… Come on there's no need to cry, that's just the way it is with us guys…Guess what? I was at the sports shop today and I bought the perfect rod and reel for you! Don’t tell your mom, she’ll kill me if she knows I got it. I know you'll love it! The reel is a Berkley Dual Cam and is it ever smooth and easy to cast. The rod is an ultra light, so you won't have any trouble handling it. I can hardly wait until your mom will let me take you and your brother out on the lake…the three of us, hauling in those Walleye and Northern…What we'll do is take the boat out on Millacs to this little spot I know about.It's kind of tucked back in on this southern little cove. That's one place I never get skunked, I always come away with something! Don't worry, if you tie into a big one, I'll help you pull it in! I remember my first big catch, I thought I was pulling up bottom… I was sure that either me or the pole or both were going to end up in the lake. But I didn’t dare let go, I just held on for dear life and screamed my head off until your grandpa came over and helped me pull him in…
Hey, hey, 到底發生了什麼事? 你要把所有的鄰居都吵醒嗎? 噓! 快一點, 我們需要讓你的媽媽趕快安睡. 她為了你的來到世間已經受了很多苦…我想, 你和我已經有很多共同的地方…我們都可能是你媽媽真正的麻煩.
噓!不需要哭, 我們男人就是要這樣子…你知道嗎?我今天在運動專賣店買了一套上好的釣竿和捲軸給你. 你可不能告訴你媽喔, 如果她知道的話, 一定會把我給宰了. 你將來一定會很喜歡的. 那捲軸是Berkley Dual Cam的, 非常的平順, 也很容易甩竿. 釣竿本身也特別的輕, 這樣你就不會有任何操作上的問題了.
我真的迫不及待地想要在你媽的恩准後, 帶你們兄弟倆到湖中…只有我們三個人, 大釣Walleye和Northern…我的計畫是把船從Millacs出發, 開到一個我所知道的地點, 一個夾藏在南邊的小灣後頭的地方. 我從來沒有在那裡槓過龜, 總是會釣到一點東西!
不要擔心, 如果你釣到大尾的, 我會幫你把它拖上來. 我記得當我第一次釣到大魚時, 我還以為我是勾到湖底呢…當時我萬分地相信, 不是我, 就是那根釣竿, 或者是兩者, 都會被拖進湖裡. 但是, 我不敢放手, 我就是死命地握緊, 大聲地叫到頭都快破掉, 你的爺爺才趕過來, 幫我把它拖上來…
FATHER: One of these days son, one of these days, you and me…it's gunna be great! That's it, back to sleep, rest those little eyes…(hum)
兒子, 就在未來當中的這些天, 就在未來當中的這些天, 你和我…那將是其樂無比! 就這樣了, 快回到夢鄉, 閉上你小小的眼睛吧…(呼聲)
NARRATOR: Men are unique and interesting creatures, and, I might add, they are not always understood or appreciated by the opposite sex. When women bond with other women, they do it while having a warm conversation over a hot cup of tea. Men on the other hand, bond with other guys while involved in something…like a sporting activity…like football, fishing. For women the activity would be distracting and detrimental to the idea of relationship building. But for guys, the sport IS the relationship! And as far as affection and caring goes, guys do that too! Like out on the football field, I mean, when a guy makes a good play on you and nearly knocks your lights out, you get up and let him know with a pat on the posterior. When a player is down, even if he's on the other team, you help him up. And when someone on your team scores or makes an incredible tackle…you show appreciation by either tackling him or butting helmets. Tell me, what could be warmer than that?
男人是一種獨特和有趣的動物, 而且, 我要說, 他們並不常常為異性所了解或欣賞.
當女人和女人聚在一起時, 她們可能一邊喝茶一邊聊天來進行彼此之間的交誼. 但另一方面, 男人和男人在一起的時候, 總是在從事一些活動, 如運動, 足球, 釣魚之類的東西.
對女人來說, 這些活動對於建立友誼是會帶來分散作用, 甚至是有害的. 但對於男人來說, 運動就是友誼! 以熱情和關心程度而言, 男人也不遑稱後. 我以足球場為例, 當一個傢伙攔截到你, 幾乎要讓你倒地不起時, 你會站起來, 在他後面輕拍, 表示不要緊. 當一個球員倒地時, 即使不是己方的球員, 你總是會幫忙把他扶起來. 當你的隊友得分或是做出不可置信的攔截動作時, 你會抱住他或是敲他的頭盔來表示你的讚賞. 天下還有什麼比這個更有人情味的東西呢?
FATHER: Do you have a boy on the team? Yeah? Which one? Number 72? Oh Ryan, he's a big kid! Come on Blue, Let’s Go! Alright, here we go. Yes! Way to Go!! WHAT!!? Holding? Oh come on ref! AHHHH!.. Oh…sorry about your popcorn ma'am. I'll go to the concession stand and get you another bag… right after this next play! …Oh look they're giving the ball to Billy…That's it…Take it to the outside…Run it by him… Oh great move Billy…YES GO, GO, GO SCORE!! YES…YES…YES!! Yes Joey…I realize I'm an embarrassment to be with. Did you see that…did you see that? That's my kid!! What a natural! Only been playing a year and is running and scoring like he's been playing for five! I think that he's got great potential! If he keeps it up, he could go far! …Maybe even play professionally someday! That a boy Billy! Great run Billy!!
父親: 你有孩子在隊上嗎? 是嗎? 是哪一個? 72號? 喔, 原來是Ryan, 他是個大孩子!
藍隊, 上場了! 好, 開始了. 對! 繼續跑! 什麼!!? 阻擋犯規? 加油啊, 裁判!
啊啊啊! 哇, 這位女士, 對不起, 把你的爆米花弄翻了, 這次進攻完之後, 我馬上去販賣攤給你買一包新的!
快看, 他們把球傳給Billy…這就對了…把球弄出去…穿過那個人…喔, Billy跑的真是太好了…對, 加油, 加油, 得分! 對…對…對!!
是的Joey…我知道我是一個會讓人感到難堪的人. 你看到哪沒有…看到沒有? 那就是我兒子!! 他真是個天生的球員! 才打了一年, 就像是那擁有五年球齡的一樣, 不停的跑, 不停的得分! 我認為, 他真的很有潛力! 如果他這樣繼續下去, 他有可能會闖出名號來! … 也許有一天, 他會參加職業隊呢!
Billy, 我的好孩子! Billy, 跑的好!!
NARRATOR: Family… family is a thing, especially in our day, that has a wide variety of meaning for people. But, no matter who we are, for most of us, the word ‘family’ still conjures up images and memories that are filled with experiences and emotions of care free happy days, of an environment of love and security, and of times of growing and learning. Probably nothing has a more profound effect on us than our family memories. For this reason I guess it behooves us to make the best ones we can. …Even doing our best though, family life can sometimes be hard and disappointing. And when that happens…Somehow we don't see it coming - It catches us by surprise - unprepared - off-guard. I think the real challenge though, within the moments that life throws at us, is in not doing damage to or destroying the very things that are truly the most important. Like, what family is really all about - people… relationships… you know… family…
家庭…特別是在今天, 對很多人來說, 代表著各種不同的東西 . 但是, 不管我們是什麼樣的人, 家庭這個字, 仍然會勾起我們充滿各樣體驗和情感的印象和回憶.
當中包括著無憂無慮的快樂日子, 包括一個充滿愛和安全感的地方, 也包括成長與學習的時刻. 也許, 世界上再也沒有比家庭的記憶會帶給我們更深遠的影響. 也因為如此, 我想我們應該儘可能的讓它成為我們最好的經驗.
…但是, 即便我們已經做了最好的努力, 有時候家庭生活仍然會有它困難的時候和失望的地方. 而且, 當我們遇到時, 往往不是我們所能預知的. 它總是出奇不意, 在我們沒有預備, 沒有保護的時候出現. 我認為, 我們真正的挑戰是, 在遇到生命的挫折時, 能不能避免損壞或是摧毀那真正最重要的東西, 像是家庭真正的目的, 或是人…或是關係…你知道的…就是家庭本身…
FATHER:
NOTE: Hi Sweetheart, I took the boys to do a little Christmas shopping. There is a plate for you on the second shelf in the fridge. By the way, you might want to take a look at Billy's report card. It just came today - It doesn't look good and I'm concerned - I don't know what is going on with him. He's a smart kid - this just doesn't make sense. We'll talk when I get home.
Love Ya
What's going on here? Every grade has dropped again! Homework not turned in…What homework? I thought that he'd been doing all of his homework. Assignments missing… Lacks motivation…I thought we had this thing solved! I thought that we had an understanding. I don't get it! Billy is better than this! How can a kid with so much talent and so much going for him…just act…like…like…he doesn't want to do anything!!? He's not dumb… I will not just stand by and let him keep slipping. We’ve just got to find a way to motivate him…help him see how important his school work is to his future…and to playing ball. I don't want to be hard on him…I don't want to restrict him…What choice does he leave me? Billy is not focused…I'm concerned about the influence of Billy's new friends.
紙條: 親愛的, 我帶孩子們去買一點點聖誕節的東西. 冰箱的第二層有一盤給你的食物. 順便的話, 你可以看看Billy的成績單. 今天剛剛寄來-看起來不太好, 我有點擔心-我真不知道他是怎麼搞的. 他是一個很聰明的孩子-這簡直太不合理了. 等我回家時, 我再跟你談.
愛你的 留
這是怎麼一回事? 每一科的成績都往下掉! 功課沒交…什麼功課? 我以為他一直都有做他的功課. 指定作業沒做…缺乏學習意願…我還以為我們早就解決這個問題了! 我以為我們已達成共識. 我真是不懂!
Billy 應該表現的比這個還好! 為什麼這樣有才情, 這樣有志向的孩子…就這樣…像…像…像是不想要做任何事的樣子呢!!?他也不笨… 我不能袖手旁觀, 讓他這樣沉淪下去. 我們必須找到適當的方式, 讓他得到動力…幫助他看見他的學校功課對他的未來, 甚至對於踢足球, 是何等的重要.
我不想要對他太嚴厲…我不想要限制他…那我到底還有什麼選擇呢? Billy不太專心…我有點擔心, 是不是Billy的新朋友造成的影響呢?
NARRATOR: Being a parent is something that a person never fully understands until they become one themselves. Good parents really care about their children's welfare. They want them to grow up to be well-adjusted successful adults, prepared for life on their own. For this reason, most parents walk a tight rope between letting go and holding on…always weighing carefully the long term results. A parent's love for their child is what keeps them tethered to sanity while overlooking the cliff of insane circumstances - and that love is what prevents them from falling headlong into passionate mistakes.
一個人在還沒有為人父母之前, 一定沒辦法完全了解當父母是怎麼一回事. 好的父母會真正的關心他們孩子的福祉. 他們想要孩子長大, 成功地成為各方調適良好的大人, 為自己將來的生命而預備.
為了這個理由, 大多數的父母一直都在收與放之間走一條鋼索…總是小心地在衡量長遠的效果. 父母對於孩子的愛是孩子們能夠不致掉落週遭瘋狂的斷崖, 讓他們繼續保持清醒的原因 - 而且這樣的愛可以避免他們栽進一時衝動所造成的錯誤.
FATHER: How many times am I going to have to deal with this? This is unbelievable! I thought that we had an agreement – my mistake! Here we go again! Anymore it seems like the only things that Billy and I talk about are issues!! All our relationship consists of anymore is conflict! …What am I going to do? I've tried everything…being lenient and giving him space to being restrictive,…I've tried grounding and removing privileges, I've tried reward and compromise…I've run out of ideas! …He just gravitates toward people who… just aren't good for him. At the same time he keeps drifting further and further from his mother and …me. At times…It's like…It's like…I don't even know him. Billy, what's happening here? What's happening to you? Where in the world are you?
這樣的事我還要重複處理多少次? 這簡直是不可相信! 我以為我們已經有了共同的理解 - 那真是我的錯誤! 那我就再說一次! 再這樣下去, 我和Billy之間看起來唯一會談的就是問題而已!! 我們之間的關係再這樣下去, 會增加的只是衝突!
…我要怎麼做才好呢? 我試遍了各種方法…先是慈悲為懷, 放寬他受限制的空間, 也試過禁足和取消特別待遇, 更試過給予獎賞或是妥協…我已經沒有別的法子了!
…他就是會受其他人的吸引…這對他一點都不好. 在這個同時, 他和他媽媽, 以及和我之間的關係只是越走越遠. 有些時候…就像是…就像是…我根本不認識他一樣.
Billy, 到底是發生了什麼事? 你到底是怎麼了? 你的心到底逛到哪裡去了?
FATHER: Wow!…I knew things weren’t good…but I never expected this! I’m shocked…that you would just come in here and demand your share of the family business…and what, you’re just going to leave? Everything…the company…the community…what about your friends…your family?!
嗚!...我就知道事情看起來不對勁…但是我從來沒有料到是這樣! 我真的很震驚…沒想到你進來這裡, 只是要求你在家庭企業中的股份…什麼, 你要走了? 那其他的事情呢…公司…社區…或是你的朋友…你的家庭呢?!
Are things really that bad around here? What have any of us done that you would put our family through something like this? You’ve pushed this too far!! You can’t just walk in here and throw your little attitude around and…Come back here when I’m talking to you…Billy…BILLY!!
這裡真的有這麼糟嗎? 我們當中到底有什麼人, 作了什麼事, 會讓你對你的家庭做出這麼讓人難過的事? 你的要求太過分了!! 你不能一下子就走進來, 表現出你不削的態度, 而且…回來, 我跟你講話的時候要… Billy…BILLY!!
What are we going to do? I suppose we can’t stop him from leaving…and what if we did…what good would that do? Yeah, that’s it, That’s what I could do…I’m going to withhold his portion of the family business…Yeah that’ll teach him… Go ahead and try to make it out there on your own…You think that You know so much!!
我們要怎麼做呢? 我想我們沒辦法阻止他離開…不過, 如果我們做了…那又會有什麼好處呢?
對, 這就對了, 這就是我所能做的…我要把他在家庭企業中的股份封存起來…就這樣, 要讓他學習到…走就走, 靠你的能力闖出你的道路來…你真的以為你懂的那麼多!!
Your right, we can’t do that, he already blames every problem he has on you and me. He’d just use that as another excuse for any future failure he might have…and to distance himself from us even further. I just can’t do that…I don’t know what to do…I just know that I don’t want to completely close the door between the two of us.
妳講的也沒錯, 我們不能那樣做, 他已經把他所有的問題都歸咎在妳和我身上. 他可能用這件事作為另一個藉口, 來面對他將來可能遇到的失敗…並且把他和我們之間的關係拉的更遠.
我就是不能這樣做…我不知道怎麼做…我只知道我不能把我們之間的門全部關起來.
Dear God, please help us…we don’t know what to do…we need your wisdom…Help us to do the right thing…please help Billy to see the direction he’s heading and where it will lead…Dear God please…Help us!
親愛的父神, 請幫助我們…我們不知道怎樣做才好…我們需要祢的智慧…請幫助我們做正確的事…請幫助Billy看見他要走的方向和未來…親愛的父神…請祢幫助我們!
NARRATOR: Someone has said that people don’t usually change until the pain of remaining the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Although true, the inherent problem with this principal, is that it doesn’t take into account what to do with the pain felt by loved ones who watch, and in their heart, walk through the pain with their friend or family member. There is a terrible feeling of helplessness…and sometimes …even hopelessness. That’s when we must, like never before, pray and trust in something…no, in Someone greater than ourselves for help and for hope!
有人說, 站在兒女的立場, 人是除非不得已, 非等到沿襲舊習的痛苦比另起爐灶的痛苦還大時, 才會想到要改變. 這句話雖然是真的, 但是其中所潛在的問題是, 它並沒有告訴我們要如何面對愛我們的人所受的痛苦, 也就是他們在看到, 並在心裡頭一同經歷到朋友或是家人的痛苦時, 當中所受到的那種煎熬.
在這其間, 會有可怕的無助感, 有時候甚至是絕望. 這時候, 我們不能像從前一樣, 我們必須要禱告, 要信任一種東西…不對, 是一個人, 祂比我們更大, 我們要祈求祂的幫助和希望!
FATHER: Are you sure that you want to do this? Are you sure that this is the right thing? Ok, ok sure.…Please be careful son, the world can be a tough place…there are a lot of people out there who will try and take advantage of you…be sure to watch how you carry your cash and …Son, your mom and I …we care about you…yeah ok…goodbye Billy…I love
you…Please don’t go.
你確信你要這樣做嗎? 你確信你要做的是正確的事嗎? 好, 好, 當然…請你要小心, 兒子, 這世界可能充滿艱難…外面有很多人可能會試著佔你的便宜…要注意如何攜帶現金, 並且…兒子, 你媽和我…我們關心你…那好…再見了,
Billy…我愛你…請你不要走.
What did I do wrong? I thought that I had always tried to do the right things…to bring my children up in the right way. I tried to give them what they needed and some of what they wanted without spoiling them. I always tried to teach them what was right…Was I too strict? Should I have given him more freedom? Maybe I should have kept a closer eye on where he went and who he hung out with…Was I there when he needed me? Where did I go wrong? There must have been something I did or could have done…or this wouldn’t have happened…this just can’t happen…not to us…
我到底做錯了什麼事情? 我以為我一直在試著作對的事情…用對的方式把我的孩子養大. 我試著給他們一切必須要有的東西, 但只給他們某些想要的東西, 以免把他們慣壞了.
我總是試著教他們什麼是對的…難道我太嚴格了嗎? 難道我應該給他更多的自由嗎? 或許, 我應該更注意他去過哪裡, 或是跟誰在一起…當他需要我時, 我在場嗎? 我到底走錯了哪條路? 我一定做過, 或是沒做, 什麼事情, 事情才會變成這樣…不然, 這是不可能發生的…尤其是對我們而言…
NARRATOR:
When describing the qualities of love, the writer of
I Corinthians said that: “Love always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres and never fails.” In other words…love never gives up! What a wonderful thing that is! Have you ever stopped to think where you’d be if it wasn’t for those who wouldn’t give up on you? Love doesn’t throw in the towel when things get tough. Instead, it keeps on…knowing that, therein lies the real power to heal a heart, to change a life…to rescue a soul!
當描述愛的特質時, 哥林多前書的作者說:” 愛是凡事相信．凡事盼望．凡事忍耐, 愛永不止息.” 換句話說…愛是永不放棄! 這是何等美妙的事!
你有沒有停下來想過, 如果不是那些對你永不放棄的人, 你現在會是在什麼地方呢? 當事情變的艱難時, 愛永不失敗. 相反的, 它會持續下去…因為, 在愛的當中, 存在著醫治心靈, 改變生命…和拯救靈魂的真正力量.
FATHER:
Dear Billy, its three–o-clock in the morning…I couldn’t sleep. I think about you all the time. Your mom and I pray for you every day. You mom is worried that you’re not taking good care of yourself – getting enough to eat. We’ve been especially concerned about some news we’ve been hearing about you – that you are in some kind of trouble. Your mom and I pray that it’s just some rumor or a mistake. We pray that you are ok. Yesterday your mom was going through some things out in the garage…and she found that old ball you and I used to practice with. Do you remember that? I don’t know if it will even hold air any more. We sure used to have a great time together. Oh son, I really miss you…how I wish we could go out and throw the ball around like we used to…
親愛的Billy, 已經凌晨三點了…我睡不著. 我一直惦記著你. 你媽和我每天都為你禱告. 你媽擔心你不會好好照顧自己 - 吃的不夠. 我們特別擔心我們聽到有關於你的一些消息 - 也就是, 你好像惹了一些麻煩. 你媽和我祈盼這只是一個謠言, 或是錯誤的訊息. 我們祈求你萬事平安.
昨天, 你媽在車庫裡清理東西…她找到了你和我以前練習用的一顆舊球. 這, 你還記得嗎? 我不曉得它還能不能充氣, 但是我們鐵定是擁有過那段美好的時光. 喔, 我兒啊, 我真的好想你…我真希望我們能夠像以前一樣, 一起出去, 互相丟球.
Billy, I know that you can’t read these letters that I’ve been writing…I don’t even know where to send them.
But I’m going to save them in case you…no, for when you come back home again…because I’ve been trying to say in them all the things I hoped you already knew…but maybe I didn’t say enough. Like all the times I’ve been so proud of you…and that I believe in you…and that I love you. DAD
Billy, 我知道你沒辦法讀到我不停在寫的這些信…我甚至也不知道要把它們寄到哪裡去. 不過我還是要把它們存起來, 準備你萬一…不對, 等到你回家時給你看…因為, 我試著在信中說出所有我希望你已經知道…但或許我並沒有說夠的事情. 比如說, 我一直是以你為傲的…我也對你有信心…
還有, 我愛你.
父筆
NARRATOR: When your car breaks down you can take it to a
mechanic to have it diagnosed and repaired. When you break an arm you can go to the hospital to have it x-rayed set and cast. But where can you go with a broken heart to have it fixed? I only know of one place…as someone has said in a song…It’s a place called grace! God’s grace is what enables a person to face themselves, to face other people, to forgive…to start over and, to put the past where it belongs – behind you! And then, to move forward into the future with renewed hope and freedom!
當你的車子壞掉時, 你可以把它送到修車間, 讓人診斷, 並修復. 當你斷了一隻手時, 你可以去醫院照X光, 並上石膏. 但是, 當你心碎時, 你要去哪裡修復它呢? 我只知道一個地方…如同有人在一首歌上所說的…在一個叫恩典的地方!
神的恩典是讓人能夠面對自己, 面對其他人, 能夠饒恕..能夠重新出發, 並把”過去”放在它該屬的地方-也就是背後, 這些作為的原動力. 從那裡, 我們才可以帶著新的希望和自由, 向未來前進.
FATHER: Hi Harold! Oh, you found my slipper, it must have come off when I ran across the yard yesterday. Thanks! Yeah I’m kind of in a hurry here! We’re heading out with the family in a few minutes. We’ve got a really special evening planned. I know, can you believe it? Billy sure surprised us yesterday! We didn’t know if we would ever see him again. It’s a long story, but he’s doing Ok. He’s talking about making a new start, you know turning things around. I can tell that there has been a real change…sure…you’re right it’s going to take some time for healing too…but he’s home…thank God he’s home! What’s that? Forgive him? …Of course I forgive him…he’s my son! Billy? You ready? Listen I’ll have to talk to you later, we’ve got to get going. Sure Harold, see ya tomorrow.
Come on out when you’re ready, I’ll pull the car out of the garage.
Hi Harold! 喔, 你找到我的拖鞋了, 那一定是我昨天穿過庭院時掉的. 謝了! 呃, 我現在急著要走! 再過幾分鐘我們就要和家人一起出去. 今晚, 我們有一個很特別的計畫.
我知道, 但你能相信嗎? Billy昨天讓我們出奇的驚喜! 我們並不知道是否會再看到他. 這說來話長, 但重要的是, 他一切平安. 他告訴我們要重新出發, 也就是說把事情重新轉變. 我可以看出, 他真的是變了…當然…你也說對了, 這還要一段時間才能癒合…但是, 他回家了…感謝神, 他真的回家了!
你說什麼? 原諒他? … 當然, 我當然原諒他了…他是我的兒子啊! Billy? 你準備好了嗎?
聽著, 待會兒我再和你談一談, 但我們現在必須走了. 好, Harold, 明天見. 當你準備好就出來, 我會把車子開出停車間.
NARRATOR:
Home…What a word! It describes a place like no
other! Home is a refuge, a place of rest and safety. It’s a place where the important seeds of learning were first planted in our lives. Home should also be a place of unconditional love and acceptance…kind of like a cool drink – an oasis within the desert of life. When you’ve tried everything else and you can’t go anywhere else…you can always come home!
家…多美妙的一個字! 它是一個無處可比的地方! 家, 是一個避難所, 是一個休息和安全的地方. 它是我們生命第一次栽種那重要的學習種子的地方. 家, 也應該是一個無條件的愛和接納的地方…有點像冷飲 - 是人生沙漠中的綠洲. 當你試過每一樣事情, 找不到其他地方可去時…你總是可以回家!
FATHER: Would you look at that! This used to be your old bassinette! You fixed it up! It look s great! Right, right we don’t want to wake him. Oh son, he’s so beautiful! He looks just like you did when you were a baby. What do you mean what if he turns out like you? Why, that would be great! I think you’ve turned out pretty well! No, Billy, don’t say that. You must not live in the shadow of what might have been, but in the light of what is ahead. Look, you’ve got a lot of living…a lot of opportunities in front of you!
你可以看一下嗎? 這就是你以前的嬰兒床! 你把它修好了! 它看起來好極了!
對, 對, 我們不要把他吵醒. 喔兒子啊, 他好美麗! 他看起來就像是嬰兒時候的你. 你說他將來萬一像你要怎麼辦, 這是什麼意思? 喔原來是這樣, 不過那也很好! 我認為你最後還是變的很好!
不, Billy, 不要那樣說. 你不能活在過去可能錯失什麼的陰影下, 而是要活在未來在前的陽光下. 看著, 在你的未來, 有很多的生活…很多的機會, 正在等著你!
Here’s your opportunity, He is going to look to you for wisdom and instruction, for love and acceptance. He is going to look to you for his picture of what the Heavenly Father must be like. No, no none of us are perfect. Just let him see God in you. You’re going to do a great job! You’ll be a good father. Billy, the best thing you can do for your son is to be real, let him see your heart, let him get close to you. Don’t allow anything he does to drive a wedge in your heart. Just love him unconditionally and continually. And, above all, don’t ever give up on him! Remember, God never gave up on us!
Uh oh, looks like he’s starting to stir. Look, I’ll stay here with him, you go on ahead and take care of what you need to do. Sure, we’ll be alright. I’ll be out in a few minutes, you go ahead. Shhh, quiet now, that’s it back to sleep…(hum)
這就是你的機會, Billy: 他要看著你, 從你得到智慧和指示, 愛和包容. 他要看著你, 從你得到天父所應該有的模樣. 不, 我們沒有一個人是完美的. 只要讓他在你身上看到神就可以了.
你會把你的職分做好的! 你會是一個好父親. Billy, 你可以為你的兒子做的最好的事就是做個真誠的人, 讓他看到你的心, 讓他親近你. 不要讓他所做的任何事情在你的心中結下一個樑子. 只要無條件的愛他, 不停的愛他. 還有, 最重要的, 絕對不要放棄他! 記住, 神從未放棄我們!
喔喔, 看起來他要開始活動了. 看著, 我可以待在這裡陪他一下, 你盡管去作你該做的事情. 當然的, 我們都會很好. 我幾分鐘就會出去, 你先走.
噓, 你安靜點, 這就對了, 回到你的夢鄉吧…(呼呼)
– by Pastor Mathews
Friday, August 10, 2007
The crisis of getting old
The chief part of a good old age consists in a good conscience and in a serene and tranquil mind. Whence it follows, that what God promises to Abraham, can only apply to those who truly cultivate righteousness: for Plato says, with equal truth and wisdom, that a good hope is the nutriment of old age; and therefore old men who have a guilty conscience are miserably tormented, and are inwardly racked as by a perpetual torture. But to this we must add, what Plato knew not, that it is godliness which causes a good old age to attend us even to the grave, because faith is the preserver of a tranquil mind. To the same point belongs what is immediately added, he was full of days, so that he did not desire a prolongation of life. We see how many are in bondage to the desire of life; yea, nearly the whole world languishes between a weariness of the present life and an inexplicable desire for its continuance. That satiety of life, therefore, which shall cause us to be ready to leave it, is a singular favor from God. - John Calvin.
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